Who should lead?

It is sometimes the case that those who want to be leaders do it for their own ego, yet can contribute little to others, and others who do not want to be a leader find that their skills are necessary to the situation at hand and step into the role because no one else can fill it.

I think it's important for all of us to dig deep into our own needs and reasons before we try to assume leadership. Can we help or are we filling out that role because we're excited about ourselves? Are we taking credit for all the work? Do we feel that we and only we can do a good job, which creates a micro-managing environment that leaves people feeling resentful? Are we taking the best, juiciest assignments for ourselves and leaving others to clean up messes and do detail work that doesn't garner much praise?

Or instead, are we helping others to be their best and giving others a chance to shine? Leadership isn't just about "being in charge," it's about bringing the best out of others, inspiring them, and having respect for the ideas and feelings of other people.

We should also redefine our concept of what a leader looks like. Too often we praise and promote the loud, talkative, social person who has a track record of "success," but whose only goal is for themselves, taking the team out with them when they crash and burn. Just because someone is social, charming, or charismatic doesn't mean they're a great leader.

Oftentimes, these types will ruin a good team or hurt the company they're working for in order for personal gain and fame. It's time we recognized leaders who are nurturer; caring individuals who help others, and who don't always need to be in the limelight to be satisfied. Sometimes the best leaders are behind the scenes.